It was easier to look past our differences when we would get together on dates because we would always do things we both enjoyed. In the "wooing" phase we would always try our hardest to please each other. I remember playing Rock Band with him almost every day of our first year of dating. And he watched many a chick flick with me.
Yet now, as we're letting down our guards and showing each other our selfish selves, we're beginning to notice just how different we truly are. Yet, instead of seeing the differences as causes for division, God is challenging us to see them as reasons to come together.
I've had to learn to hang out while Matt plays on the Xbox. And Matt now gets roped into watching Married to Jonas with me. But even in these silly things in life, we're learning so much about one another. I think love is way more than just "choosing" to be with someone, or choosing to put them first. I think it's studying them. Learning them. Wanting what they want because you love them so much. It's supporting them and being their teammate when you are directly hurt by them. It's seeing them as Christ does and not for how they treat you sometimes.
Marriage is about the hardest thing we'll ever do in our lives. But it's also the sweetest. And the most growing and humbling experience. Already in these first few months, we have learned how to forgive more than ever, humble ourselves more than ever, and love more than ever.
It's the most beautiful concept: marriage as a demonstration of God and His love for us. I'm thankful He's teaching me that each and every day.
